Saturday 31 May 2014

My boyfriend made me dump prostitution for armed robbery–Suspect


Bakare (middle) with other members of the gang
 Bakare (middle) with other members of the gang 

Twenty-four-year-old Sherifat Bakare, is a young lady one could describe at first glance as pretty. But as she sat on the ground in front of the Special Anti-Robbery Squad of the Ogun State Police Command in Abeokuta, one cannot but imagine how deadly she might have been on operations with her robbery gang.
“I was hustling before Raji, my boyfriend, told me to join his gang,” Bakare began.
But when she was asked to elaborate on what she did as a “hustler,” she explained that she meant prostitution.
Bakare in company with four other members of her gang, were apprehended on Wednesday, May 21, 2014 by the men of Ogun State SARS, who had been on their trail after receiving a tip-off about the gang’s plan.
It all began a few weeks ago, Bakare narrated. She said another member of the gang, Bola Onasile, (also in SARS custody) had approached her boyfriend about the availability of N70m in a wealthy man’s house in Joju area of Sango, Ogun State.
“I have only gone on two operations with them. I don’t know him (Onasile) well. I only know that he was the one who brought the job.
“Raji gathered other members and they snatched a vehicle (a Nissan Quest) around Iwo Road, Ibadan. We decided that the vehicle would be used for the operation.
“The gang asked me to sit in the front of the vehicle so that when we were stopped by policemen on the way, being a woman in the front seat would make them unsuspicious. But during the operation, the police cornered us and Raji was shot dead.”
Bakare did not betray any emotions as she narrated how the operation went.
Asked if she smoked Indian hemp like other members of her gang, she said, “I have never tasted it, I only smoke cigarette.”
But when our correspondent asked about her parents, tears streamed down her face.
“I am from Idofian in Kwara State. My father is late but my mother lives in Ibadan. She has no idea I do this kind of job and she does not even know I am in police custody.”
Bakare explained that she was a prostitute in Lekki where she was making up to N5,000 per day until about two years ago.
“I was living with a security guard in a house at Osborne in Ikoyi. The landlord of the house was out of the country. I was going from there to ‘hustle’ in Lekki every night.
“Raji was a good helper to me. That was why I decided to leave prostitution when he begged me. When he introduced me to armed robbery, I asked him if there would be no problem and he assured me that there would be none. When we started dating, I did not know he was an armed robber though.”
Asked how much she was promised out of the N70m they were going to steal, Bakare said whatever went to her late boyfriend would have accrued to her as well.
The young lady said she learnt photography when she dropped out of secondary school but had not been able to practise the trade because she did not think she could make much money from it.
During Saturday Punch’s visit to the SARS office in Abeokuta, 36-year-old Onasile, who brought the N70m job, was evasive when our correspondent asked him how he knew about the money.
He later said that an acquaintance of his, a man named Tunde, informed him about the money.
Onasile said, “Tunde is like a brother to me. He told me the man we were going to rob was his relation. He said the man had N70m at home. I told him I had no boys who could do the job. But he was always disturbing me about getting a gang together to do the operation.
“Few days later, I informed Raji about the operation and he told me he could get boys for the job. We planned to sell the vehicle we snatched after the operation but we did not know how police got to know about the operation. Tunde ran away when the police were after us.”
Onasile said he was a revenue collector for a local government council in Lagos before he lost the job when a new chairman weeded out excess employees from the council.
According to him, he got a job as a site thug getting assignments from land grabbers once in a while but the money was not coming as needed.
Meanwhile, a gang of robbers, who specialised in snatching motorcycles have been apprehended by the SARS in Ogun State after an under cover operation.
Paraded alongside the suspects were the receipts, which they told the police that they issued to buyers of the motorcycles they snatched from their victims.
The Police Public Relations Officer, Ogun State, Mr. Muyiwa Adejobi, said he believed that more members of Bakare’s robbery gang were still out on the streets. He said investigation was still ongoing to ensure that they did not escape justice.
He said, “We are on their trails. But we can assure the public that wherever they are, we will hunt them down and apprehend them.
“In the case of the gang who specialised in snatching motorcycles, our men were able to track them down after we got a tip-off that one of them wanted to purchase a gun.
“One of our SARS operatives who posed as a potential seller told him the pistol was N250,000 but the gang member said he could only afford N150,000.
“Criminals should understand that it is not a joke when the Commissioner of Police, Mr. Ikemefuna Okoye, says that crime would not be tolerated in any part of the state. We mean it and will track down any criminal that ventures into this state.”
The wives of the gang members were also arrested because they admitted that they knew their husbands were robbers.
Adejobi said the suspects would be charged to court as soon as possible.

Copyright PUNCH.

Thursday 29 May 2014

United owner Malcolm Glazer dies @ 85

 


Manchester United owner Malcolm Glazer passed away on Wednesday night, aged 85.
Glazer bought the Old Trafford club in 2005 and witnessed five Premier League titles and one Champions League triumph during his time.
His family – wife Linda, five sons and a daughter – will continue the running of all their ventures, including the Red Devils.
The news of Glazer's death was announced on the Tampa Bay Buccaneers website, the American football franchise the family also owns.
May his soul rest in peace.

Monday 26 May 2014

2015 YUKON



  •  QUICKSILVER METALLIC

 2015 YUKON

  • STARTING MSRP1:
  • $46,335 MPG2 (City/Hwy) 16/23
  • INTERIOR

    Meet the all-new 2015 GMC Yukon. Its spacious interior offers three rows of seating that can accommodate up to nine passengers. With its bold styling, premium materials, and inspiring capability, Yukon creates a new standard in full-size utility.
    Front center console of the 2015 Yukon full size SUV

    REFINED STYLE

    The 2015 Yukon interior offers a perfect blend of craftsmanship, comfort and functionality. The proof is in the details, including:

    • Authentic aluminum trim
    • Contrast stitching on console and doors
    • Manual-tilt steering wheel (power-tilt and telescoping standard on SLT models)
    • Three distinct heating and cooling zones for maximum passenger comfort
    • Available power-adjustable pedals
    • Optional heated steering wheel
    Driver and passenger seat in 2015 Yukon full size SUV

    QUIET CABIN

    GMC engineers concentrated on every aspect of the Yukon to reduce cabin noise, resulting in an unparalleled driving experience. Innovations contributing to interior quietness include:

    • Inlaid doors and redesigned mirrors for reduced wind noise and improved aerodynamics
    • Acoustic-laminated windshield and front-door windows
    • Triple-sealed doors
    • Valved exhaust system that drastically reduces interior noise and vibration
    • Textile liners in front and rear wheel houses
    Interior of the 2015 Yukon full size SUV

    INNOVATIVE SEATING & STORAGE

    Yukon delivers on your need for unparalleled comfort, as well as the flexibility to accommodate passengers, cargo, or both. Features include:

    • Third-row fold-flat bench seats (new for 2015) with an available power-folding option
    • Segment-exclusive second-row power release fold-and-tumble seats are standard on SLT
    • Lit storage behind articulating 8-inch-diagonal Color Touch Radio screen
    • A center console large enough for hanging folders or a laptop
    • Available front bench seat (SLE only) and second-row bucket-seat options
    • Heated and cooled driver and front-passenger seats and heated second row seats come standard on SLT

    EXTERIOR

    The all-new 2015 GMC Yukon has been redesigned to make a powerful first impression. From its confident, aerodynamic proportions to its premium accents and refined finish, this sport utility vehicle lives up to its looks with superior capability, comfort, and towing capacity.
    The 2015 Yukon full size SUV with Professional Grade chrome-accented grille

    CONFIDENT. STYLISH.

    All-new for 2015, the redesigned Yukon exterior exudes style and confidence from first impression to lasting glance, with highlights that include:

    • Bold, refined exterior design
    • Detailed GMC grille and chrome grille surround
    • Projector beam headlamps
    • Full LED Turn Signals and Daytime Running lamps featuring GMC’s Graphic Light Signature
    • Available 18- and 20-inch brushed aluminum wheels
    • Fog lamps with chrome surround
    • Innovative hidden rear wiper system for reduced wind drag
    Innovative Rear Lift Gate on the 2015 Yukon full size SUV

    INTUITIVE PASSIVE ENTRY

    The passive entry system available on the Yukon allows you to access all four doors and the rear liftgate when it senses your key fob approaching. When you exit, the vehicle automatically locks within several seconds of the last door being closed.
    Adjust rear liftgate on the 2015 Yukon full size SUV with the touch of a button

    AN INNOVATIVE REAR LIFTGATE

    Opt for Yukon’s available power programmable rear liftgate to adjust gate height and other settings with a touch of a button. Inside or outside the vehicle, your key fob opens the gate for easy access. The rear liftglass can be opened separately, so you can load cargo without having to raise the full liftgate.

    TECHNOLOGY

    Setting the new standard for large SUVs means engineering technology and infotainment innovations that let you stay conveniently connected and in control.

    ADVANCED INFOTAINMENT

    The newly enhanced next-generation GMC IntelliLink3 system enables you to seamlessly experience your media like never before through a logical, intuitive interface. Features include:


    • 8-inch-diagonal Color Touch Radio screen with smartphone-inspired interface
    • Natural-language voice recognition
    • MyMedia functionality that can connect media libraries from you and your passengers’ devices
    • Smartphone integration for hands-free calling and phone book access4
    • Customizable “Favorites” allow you to save albums, songs, artists, destinations, and contacts
    • Bluetooth®4 with phone and audio streaming capability
    • Available navigation5 system
    • Multiple USB6 ports/SD Card Reader and 3.5mm auxiliary jack inputs

    IN-VEHICLE ENTERTAINMENT

    In addition to IntelliLink3, Yukon is equipped with a premium audio system and multiple infotainment options to keep all your occupants entertained.


    • Premium Bose® Surround Sound System
    • Available Rear-seat Blu-Ray entertainment system with 9-inch-diagonal screen
    • Time Shift capability that allows you to pause and rewind live radio
    • Sirius XM Radio

    DRIVER INFORMATION DISPLAY

    Yukon’s new, more user-friendly instrument cluster allows you unprecedented control of what information can be displayed, including:


    • A 4.2-inch-diagonal, full-color Driver Information Center
    • Convenient access to audio, phone, and available navigation functions
    • All functions are controlled via the steering wheel and are integrated with the 8-inch-diagonal Color Touch Radio screen display located in the center stack

    CONVENIENCE

    Because technology isn’t Professional Grade unless it’s useful, the new Yukon features technologies purposefully engineered with your comfort and well-being in mind. Standard and optional features include:


    • Keyless entry and push-button start (standard on SLT)
    • 110v 3-prong outlet
    • Available Adaptive Cruise Control
    • Rainsense™ front wipers that automatically respond to varying degrees of precipitation
    • Rear Vision Camera System

    The Key To A Lasting Relationship In Business And In Marriage


    Billionaire entrepreneur Richard Branson once said, “Lash praise on people and people will flourish; criticize and they shrivel up.” Branson may have discovered the secret to successful relationships in both business and in life.
    Asked why they quit their jobs and many employees – up to 79 percent in one study—cite a lack of appreciation. The same reason is often given when a spouse decides to end a marriage. A recent Wall Street Journal article featured marriage and family experts who said, “A common cause of divorce is the feeling of being unappreciated by one’s spouse…it is essential to show appreciation to your spouse regularly, as in every day.”

    image of happy people  - Mature older couples enjoying a celebration in a restaurant - JPG
    Appreciation, praise, and recognition hold relationships together. The business compact is a relationship and most employees want the same feeling they get from a supportive spouse—they want to be shown appreciation. They want to be “celebrated every day.” I’m constantly amazed at how many bosses fail to utilize one of the most powerful retention and engagement tools at their disposal and that’s praise. I’ve yet to meet an employee who says they get up 
    Monday morning because their company offers free snacks in the vending machine or a discount on gym memberships. However, I do get an earful from employees who are thinking about leaving or actively looking for a new job because they fail to receive simple recognition.
    For example, a friend recently attended her company’s “President’s club” trip as a reward for the company’s top salespeople. My friend has been the number one salesperson at this particular company for several years in a row. She loves her work. She loves the product. She takes pride in her accomplishments. She’s also actively talking to recruiters despite the fact that salary and bonuses add up to the mid six-figures. She’s willing to take a pay cut to leave. Why? She feels as though she’s never recognized publicly for her accomplishments. Her boss has never sent out a company-wide email nor has he ever said anything to praise her either in a private conversation or at a sales event. Some might suggest that her salary is recognition enough. I’d argue that’s an old-school philosophy. The fact is that regardless of how much people make, most of us want to be singled out and recognized for our accomplishments.
    In another recent example my wife and I were having dinner with friends. One of the people in our group works in the health insurance field and, since I was preparing to deliver a keynote to insurance executives, I asked her what she was missing—if anything—from the relationship she has with her superiors. “I’d appreciate more recognition for the role I play,” she immediately answered. “The salespeople bring new accounts through the door, but I retain them. I don’t feel as though my contributions are recognized.”
    “In what way would you like to be recognized?” I asked. “Do you want more money?”
    “Of course more money would be nice, but even public praise would be huge!”
    In both of the examples I’ve cited, the word “public” has come up. Praise is good. Making it public is even better. The Ritz-Carlton hotel chain has institutionalized public praise. Every day at every Ritz-Carlton hotel each department meets for a “line-up,” a 15-minute staff meeting where managers share stories of employees exceeding the expectations of the hotel’s guests. A former president of the Ritz-Carlton chain once told me that the stories serve two purposes. First, the stories are learning opportunities, providing employees specific examples of exceptional customer service. Second, the stories provide a means of publicly praising those employees who provided the service. The Ritz-Carlton has invited me to attend some of these meetings as an observer. In my experience I’ve rarely seen a more enthusiastic, committed, and engaged group of employees. To a person they enjoy the stories and they especially love being recognized in front of their peers.
    A study conducted by Wichita State University found that of sixty-five motivating factors in the workplace the top five were “praise related,” yet 81 percent of employees “seldom or never received public praise.” As the economy improves many of your best employees might start looking for new opportunities. 
    Praise might just be the perk your company or department is missing.

    Sunday 25 May 2014

    10 signs you’re ready to live together

    Are you ready to move in?

    Are you ready to live together? Moving in with your guy or girl can be great, but it can be a nightmare. Make sure you don’t ruin your relationship by moving too fast and read these 10 signs that will show you whether you are ready to share your closet space.

     

    Pants on the floor? Not an issue

    Imagine this scenario; you come home after an excruciatingly long day at work to find mountains of clothes on your bedroom floor. Do you hit the roof screaming or shrug it off as one-of-those-things? If you still start a shouting match then it might be a sign that you’re not ready to live together. Although no one likes living with a messy person, researchers have found that eight out of 10 people said they cleaned up after their other half. Basically mess is something you are going to have to deal with if you become roomies.

    You go Dutch

    The all-time number one breakup issue is money. If you and your guy or girl aren’t dividing things up equally now then you’re going to face some major issues when you live together. Although you don’t need to go halves on every dinner out or movie you see together, make sure that there is a balance and that neither of you are paying way more than the other. Even if you think you’re comfortable with it now, the fact that they’re freeloading or you’re dependent on their cash flow will be problematic when you’re shacked up.

    painting moving in 10 signs you're ready to live together

     

    You get lost when you go home

    So, you need to change your clothes and check your phone messages. The only problem is you’ve forgotten how to get home. If you’re spending all your time at their house and you haven’t been home in weeks, then it might be time to throw away your house key and settle into coupledom bliss.

    Bad day?  You go home to them

    Your team lost to their rivals, your boss shouted at you and you got stuck in a two hour traffic jam. So what do you do? Go out for drinks with your friends or go home to your guy or girl and eat takeout in front of trashy TV? One of the biggest signs that you’re ready to live together is when you have had the worst day and you go home to your other half.

    You start to dream of weddings

    If you’ve started to dream about big white dresses and cutting cakes then it might be a sign that you’re looking to commit. Ask yourself this: do you see yourself with this person in five years time? If you do, then take the plunge and go for it; life is short and love is hard to find. If it doesn’t work out then at least you gave it a go and you now know they’re not your Romeo or Juliet.

     

    You buy furniture together

    You need a new carpet; who do you ask to help you pick one? If you pick your lovely partner then that’s great news. Being able to make decisions together, especially decisions regarding personal taste and money, is crucial if you are going to get along in co-habiting heaven. Just make sure you steer clear of those horrendous his and her towel sets.

    You haven’t had a big fight in a while

    Living together can be a nightmare. If you have lots of unresolved issues and have personalities that clash then you are always going to be fighting and no one likes sleeping on the couch. If you haven’t had a big fight in a while then it might be a sign that you’re compatible enough to settle. Little fights are common though and the average couple have a whopping 312 arguments a year.

    signs you're  ready to live together party girls

     

    You don’t worry when they go out

    To live together and enjoy it you have to be secure and trust one another. A great test to see whether you’re ready to move in together is to judge how you feel when they go out with their friends to a bar or party. Do you worry and feel anxious? Are you likely to turn up incognito and spy behind a bar stool? If you’re not secure with your guy or girl you’re not ready to take the plunge.

    Your bathroom cabinet has expanded

    When you open your bathroom cabinet what do you see? If you’ve got shaving cream, panty liners and nose clippers lodged amidst your usual in-house pharmacy then it might be time to consider getting an extra key cut; they seem to have moved in anyway so why resist the inevitable?

    You struggle to sleep on your own

    When you finally make it home to your own bed do you relish the chance to stretch out in your bed or do you miss spooning your guy or girl? If you struggle to sleep in your own bed then stop being love-sick and give living together a go. At some point in our lives we all have to take a risk

    Kanye West and Kim Kardashian marry in Italian wedding < 24 May 2014>


    Kim Kardashian and Kanye West

    Photo:
    Kanye West and Kim Kardashian have married at a fortress in the Italian city of Florence.
    The E! network, which runs the Keeping Up With the Kardashians reality TV series, confirmed the news.
    "Kim Kardashian and Kanye West were married in a private ceremony in the presence of family and friends in Florence, Italy," publicist Ina Treciokas said.
    It is the first marriage for West, and the third for Kardashian.

    Will Smith's son Jaden was one of the guests invited to celebrate the wedding 
    Jaden Smith 
    The rapper and reality TV star were joined by several hundred guests at the 16th-century Fort Belvedere.
    West proposed on Kardashian's birthday in October.
    12 Years a Slave director Steve McQueen and Will Smith's son Jaden were among the celebrities spotted in Florence.
    The couple had arrived there by private jet after holding a series of parties in Paris.

    12 Years A Slave director Steve McQueen was spotted arriving in Florence 
    Steve McQueen 
    They'd spent Friday night celebrating at Versailles.
    West, 36, and Kardashian, 33, held a private costume party at the chateau after they were told they would not be able to marry there in January.
    The celebrations included horses adorned with bright colours, riders wearing huge feathers in their hats, musketeers in wigs and drum rolls.
    It's thought the wedding could earn the couple up to $21 million (£12.5m) thanks to sponsors and through the sale of exclusive photos of the ceremony.

    Fans outside Fort Belvedere in Florence, Italy

    Fans wait outside Fort Belvedere in Florence, Italy, hoping to see Kim Kardashian and Kanye West 
    Fans outside Fort Belvedere in Florence, Italy
    The money will help repay the hire of Fort Belvedere, a Renaissance fortress which overlooks Florence and which is costing more than $400,000 (£237,000) for the day.
    Earlier on Friday, the couple had lunch in the Chateau de Wideville west of Paris, which is owned by designer Valentino.
    Security guard



    Security was incredibly tight around the venue in Florence
    On Thursday night, Kim Kardashian celebrated her hen do with friends in Paris sporting a white Pierre Balmain mini-dress embellished with pearls.
    The Keeping Up with the Kardashians star tweeted several photos of herself in the city, including one with the Eiffel Tower lit up behind her and her friends with the message: "Night out in Paireeeeee."
    One showed her with her grandmother while yet another of her and her friends bore the message "I'm so lucky! I have the best friends in the whole wide world."

    Fans outside the Chateau de Versailles

    Fans mob a car arriving at the Chateau de Versailles west of Paris
    Kanye West proposed to Kim Kardashian on her 33rd birthday in October last year at San Francisco baseball ground AT&T Park.
    The couple's first child, a daughter named North, was born in June 2013.
    Kardashian was previously married to music producer Damon Thomas from 2000 to 2003 and spent 72 days married to professional basketball player Kris Humphries in 2011.
    Their ceremony was broadcast as a two-part TV special called Kim's Fairytale Wedding.

    Three dead as Champions League fans targeted in Nigeria blast | May 25, 2014

     Boko Haram kidnapped more than 250 girls from a secondary school in Chibok in remote northeastern Nigeria on April 14.
     JOS: At least three people were killed in the central Nigerian city of Jos in an explosion targeting football fans watching the European Champions League final, the authorities said.

    Yesterday's blast came just days after a twin car bomb attack ripped through a crowded market in the city, killing 118 and raising fears of a spread of Boko Haram Islamist violence from the restive northeast.

    "So far, we have three dead, three injured," Chris Olakpe, the commissioner of police for Plateau state, of which Jos is the capital, told AFP.

    "The target was the (football) viewing centre." Olakpe said it was too early to say who may have been responsible for the blast, which came with people on edge and nerves frayed about a fresh strike.

    The police chief also declined to comment on reports that the explosion was a suicide bombing but revealed that the bomber's improvised explosive device went off prematurely.

    "He died in the wake of the heinous crime. He was consumed by his IED. It exploded before the viewing centre because of pressure from local youths and the alertness of the local people," he added.

    Pam Ayuba, spokesman for the Plateau state governor Jonah Jang, said the blast happened at about 9.30pm (0200 IST, Sunday) on Bauchi Road, a predominantly Muslim area of the city.

    Football is Nigeria's national sport and top European teams, particularly from the English Premier League but also Spain's top flight, have a fanatical following.

    Spanish giants Real Madrid took the Champions League title yesterday.

    So-called football "viewing centres" — often open air, big screen venues — have been targeted before, elsewhere in Nigeria.

    Last month, suspected Boko Haram gunmen stormed a packed venue in Potiskum, northeast Yobe state, and shot dead two people showing the two Champions League quarter-final matches.

    Police at the time did not directly blame Boko Haram for the attack but the group has been known for preaching against football as part of its agenda to impose strict Islamic law in northern Nigeria.

    In several video clips, Boko Haram leader Abubakar Shekau has described football and music as a Western ploy to distract Muslims from their religion.

    Tuesday's bombings in Jos — Nigeria's deadliest — came despite the government's internationally backed security crackdown after the militant group kidnapped more than 200 schoolgirls last month. : A massive explosion on Saturday night hit Nigeria's central Jos City, where more than 118 people were killed in a similar incident on Tuesday, police said without giving any casualty figures.

    State police spokesperson Felicia Anselm said the incident was suspected to be a suicide bomb attack, noting the explosion occurred near the University of Jos, along the express way leading to northeast Bauchi State. "But details are still sketchy for now," Xinhua quoted her as saying.

    Other sources said A lifeless body of the suicide bomber was found some 20 metres away from a football viewing centre, where soccer fans converged to watch the final of 2014 UEFA Champions League between Real Madrid and Atletico Madrid.

    Saturday 24 May 2014

    Relationship Matters, Love Matters Most, Love Is Sacrifice

    Love matters most in your marriage, in your families, with your friends, and those you do not know. When we decide to become need meeters, that’s when we are pursuing a life of fulfillment. Why do we seek out information on relationship matters? Probably because there are issues with focusing on what matters most. Your own personal happiness is not what matters most, because love matters most, and love is outwardly focused, not inwardly consumed.
    What matters most in relationships can be summed up in one word, otherness. It is through an otherness focus that we love. Through love we show and tell others that they matter to us. Love recognizes others and their needs, their needs to be noticed, to be accepted, appreciated, to be loved, and to know that they matter. The most important asset you have is your time, and if you are loving others with your time, then you are doing what matters the most. Love is sacrifice, you sacrifice your time, what you want or desire, to love others.
    I am often blessed by the gift of watching my wife go over to another woman, who is sitting by herself, and see how she reaches out with love towards them. You see, by simply going to introduce herself to someone like that, and spending some time talking with them, she is showing them that they matter, that they are recognized, and that they are significant. That is Godly love, the kind of love that touches other people through relationship right where they are. Doing something like that requires her to have an otherness focus, she is looking to meet other peoples needs, for any opportunity where she can touch people with love.
    There are so many people who feel alone, or who may feel like they don’t matter. This is true with acquaintances, with friends, family, and with spouses. It is also true that none of us can get all the love we need from one person, though our spouses may supply a majority of our love, we still need outside sources to fill in the gaps. We would also find that, if we had an otherness focus, that we could fill in some gaps for some people who may be lacking loving relationships in their lives.
     If you love those who love you, do you deserve a reward? Even the tax collectors do that! Are you doing anything remarkable if you welcome only your friends? Everyone does that! (Matthew 5:46-47).
    You might be wondering how does loving others outside of your marriage relationship matter? Well to be truly walking in love, you are loving those you can reach. Besides that, the actions of love are habit forming, much like riding a bicycle, the more you do it, the better you become at it, and the more it becomes natural behavior for you. Practice matters, just like anything else, practice makes perfect. Please do not understand or attempt to misrepresent what was just written, this does not say to go have sex outside of your marriage, that is not love.
    We are all here to learn to love within the context of relationships. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these." (Mark 12:30-31). It’s all about love and relationship, starting with God first, then learning to love others, as we all have a human tendency to be stuck on loving ourselves. In 1 Corinthians 13:5, the bible says that love is not self-seeking, or depending on the bible version it may say; it does not seek its own, or It does not demand its own way. Love is not selfish, love is not self-centered, love intently looks to meet the needs of others, love is sacrifice.

    You matter, you are intended on being a gift, a gift to others, and other people matter, they are intended to be a gift to you and others. Life is all about love and relationships, and yet we struggle so much with that intention. Secular teaching tells us to acquire for ourselves, to take care of number one, and we tend to buy that hook, line, and stinker! In order to grow you must do some inward focusing on yourself, but that is to clear out the unhealthy aspects within, it’s not to shower yourself with luxuries and wealth, or to go around saying "excuse me, I come first." Love is a sacrifice, you sacrifice your wants, desires, or needs for the benefits of others, you put yourself last. "So the last shall be first, and the first last." (Matthew 20:16). If you put yourself last, you will be exalted upward, if you put yourself first, you will be humbled.
    John 15:13 sums this up with regards to the sacrifice of love within the context of relationships; No one shows greater love than when he lays down his life for his friends. In order to walk in love we all may need to make daily adjustments, behavior adjustments, and attitude adjustments. Remember those 3 special words you so commonly tell your relatives, your friends, and your spouse all the time? You say, I love you as you hang up the phone, you say I love you to your wife or husband as you walk out the door, and yet so often those words are not backed up by your sacrifices. I love you is an outward expression, do your actions show it today?

    From a heart that cares. Hope it informed you greatly?

    Virtues List, Positive Character Traits & Healthy Love Attributes



    A virtue is a character trait valued as being good. 
    When the components of a relationship are right, then love will fill the voids. Love is not just looking at one another, but looking together in the same direction. Love needs to be intertwined with positive character attributes, in a complex mental state involving beliefs, feelings, values, and dispositions to act in reverence.
     
    The fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. The above list of virtues is from Galatians 5:22-23, it would be wise to memorize the above list of attributes for future memory access, it's good software for your brain. Furthermore, it would be good to list one more bit of wisdom with regards to character from Romans 5:3-5 which says; Not only so, but we also rejoice in our sufferings because we know that suffering produces perseverance, perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not disappoint us…
    Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 
     Joy is a source of happiness, the emotion of great happiness or to make glad or happy.
    Peace is harmonious relations; freedom from disputes, the absence of mental stress or anxiety.
    Patience is good-natured tolerance of delay, the capacity, habit, or fact of being patient.
    Kindness is the quality of being warm-hearted and considerate and humane and sympathetic.
    Goodness is moral excellence or admirableness, that which is good or valuable or useful.
    Faithfulness is the quality of being faithful to someone or something, loyal, true, constant, fast, steadfast, and staunch.
    Gentleness is the quality or state of being gentle; especially : mildness of manners or disposition.
    Self-Control is the trait of resolutely controlling your own behavior, the act of denying yourself; controlling your impulses.
    The following list of character virtues are not necessarily in any kind of order, nor is the list of character attributes, (virtues), considered complete.
    Hopefulness is having qualities which inspire hope, full of hope, inclined to hope. One definition of hope is to have a happy anticipation of something good.
    Forgiveness is the act of excusing a mistake or offense, compassionate feelings that support a willingness to forgive.
    Selflessness is acting with less concern for yourself than for the success of the joint activity. The quality of unselfish concern for the welfare of others.
    Fairness sees a situation from the viewpoint of each person involved and not just ours. It seeks the best, just, equable solution, even if it hurts us. So in everything, do to others as you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets. Matthew 7:12
    Grace is a disposition to kindness and compassion; benign good will. The free and unmerited favor or beneficence of God.
    Mercy is alleviation of distress; showing great kindness toward the distressed. A disposition to be kind and forgiving, the feeling that motivates compassion.
    Compassion is a deep awareness of and sympathy for another's suffering, the humane quality of understanding the suffering of others and wanting to do something about it.
    Empathy is identification with and understanding of another's situation, feelings, and motives.
    Wisdom is the quality of being prudent and sensible, the trait of utilizing knowledge and experience with common sense and insight.
    Understanding is The capacity for rational thought or inference. Characterized by understanding based on comprehension and discernment and empathy.
    Discernment is perception of that which is obscure, the trait of judging wisely and objectively, the cognitive condition of someone who understands.
    Encouragement is the act of giving hope or support to someone, support of a kind that inspires confidence and a will to continue or develop.
    Faith is belief and trust in and loyalty to God. To be loyal or true to a person or promise, complete trust, firm belief.
    Caring is feeling and exhibiting concern and empathy for others, a loving feeling, having or displaying warmth or affection.
    Generosity is the trait of being willing to give your money or time, acting generously.
    Humility is a humble view of one’s own importance. A disposition to be humble; a lack of false pride.
    Honesty is the quality of being honest, fairness and straightforwardness of conduct, adherence to the facts.
    Sincerity is the quality of being open and truthful; not deceitful or hypocritical.
    Integrity is firm adherence to a code of especially moral or artistic values, incorruptibility, an unimpaired condition, soundness, the quality or state of being complete or undivided.
    Respect is an attitude of admiration or esteem, show respect towards, a courteous expression (by word or deed) of esteem or regard.
    Consideration is the process of giving careful thought to something, kind and considerate regard for others, a considerate and thoughtful act.
    Impartiality is the quality of being impartial; freedom from bias or favoritism; disinterestedness; equitableness; fairness; as, impartiality of judgment, of treatment.
    Gratitude is a feeling of thankfulness and appreciation, the state of being grateful.
    Contentment is a feeling of calm satisfaction, the quality or state of being contented, a circumstance, or a feature or characteristic of something, that gives rise to satisfaction.
    Acceptance is the act of taking something that is offered, a disposition to tolerate or accept people or situations, the state of being acceptable and accepted.
    Helpfulness is the property of providing useful assistance, friendliness evidence by a kindly and helpful disposition.
    Friendliness is showing kindly interest and goodwill to another, a friendly disposition, a feeling of liking for another person; enjoyment in their company.
    Modesty is freedom from vanity or conceit, formality and propriety of manner.
    Honor is show respect towards, the quality of being honorable and having a good name.
    Purity is the state of being free from sin or moral wrong; lacking a knowledge of evil. Being undiluted or unmixed with extraneous material, a woman's virtue or chastity.
    Righteousness is adhering to moral principles, morally right or justifiable, acting in accord with divine or moral law.
    Sacrifice is destruction or surrender of something for the sake of something else or someone else.
    Loyalty is the act of binding yourself, intellectually or emotionally, to a course of action.
    Hospitality is kindness in welcoming guests or strangers, hospitable treatment, reception, or disposition.
    Courtesy is a courteous or respectful or considerate act, courteous behavior.
    Cooperation is joint operation or action, common effort, association of persons for common benefit, the practice of cooperating.
    Service is an act of help or assistance, work done by one person or group that benefits others.
    Guidance is the act of guiding or showing the way, something that provides direction or advice as to a decision or course of action.
    Perseverance is persistent determination, the act of persisting or persevering; continuing or repeating behavior.
    Endurance is The act, quality, or power of withstanding hardship or stress.
    Courage is a quality of spirit that enables you to face danger of pain without showing fear. Persistence plus fear equals courage.
    Diligence is persevering determination to perform a task, conscientiousness in paying proper attention to a task; giving the degree of care required in a given situation.
    Meekness is a disposition to be patient and long suffering, the feeling of patient submissive humbleness.
    Purposefulness is the quality of having a definite purpose, full of meaning; significant.
    Foresight is the perception of the significance and nature of events before they have occurred. Care in providing for the future; prudence. The act of looking forward.
    Intuition is immediate apprehension or cognition without reasoning or inferring, knowledge or conviction gained by intuition, the power or faculty of gaining direct knowledge or cognition without evident rational thought and inference.
    Optimism is a general disposition to expect the best in all things, the optimistic feeling that all is going to turn out well.
    Potential is the inherent ability or capacity for growth, development, or coming into being.
    Orderliness is a condition of regular or proper arrangement, the quality of appreciating method and system.
    Unity is the quality of being united into one, an unreduced or unbroken completeness or totality.
    Reverence is a reverent mental attitude, honor or respect felt or shown, profound adoring awed respect, regard with feelings of respect and reverence; consider exalted or to be in awe of.
    Steadfastness is loyalty in the face of trouble and difficulty, steadfast resolution, firm in belief, determination, or adherence.
    Obedience the act of obeying; dutiful or submissive behavior with respect to another.
    Devotion is commitment to some purpose, feelings of ardent love, willingness to serve God.
    Reliability is the trait of being dependable or reliable, something or someone that is reliable can be trusted or believed because they work or behave well in the way you expect.
    Assertiveness is aggressive self-assurance; given to making bold assertions, disposed to or characterized by confident assertion.
    Tolerance is the ability to put up with harsh or difficult conditions, the act of putting up with somebody or something irritating or otherwise unpleasant.
    Responsibility
    is a form of trustworthiness; the trait of being answerable to someone for something or being responsible for one's conduct.
    Trustworthiness
    is the trait of deserving trust and confidence, dependable, deserving of trust, or able to be trusted.
    Moderation is quality of being moderate and avoiding extremes, the trait of avoiding excesses, the action of lessening in severity or intensity.
    Flexibility is the quality of being adaptable or variable, characterized by a ready capability to adapt to new, different, or changing requirements.
    Tactful is having or showing a sense of what is fitting and considerate in dealing with others. Showing skill and sensitivity in dealing with people.
    Enthusiasm is a feeling of excitement, passionate interest in or eagerness to do something.
    Creativity is the ability to use the imagination to develop new and original ideas or things, especially in an artistic context.

    Commitment
    is the act of binding yourself, intellectually or emotionally, to a course of action, the trait of sincere and steadfast fixity of purpose.
    Happiness is never stopping to think if you are. The state of being happy; contentment; joyful satisfaction; felicity; blessedness.
    Excellence is the quality of excelling; possessing good qualities in high degree, something in which something or some one excels.
    Godliness is careful observance of, or conformity to, the laws of God; the state or quality of being godly; piety.

    The Best Love Advice Guidelines For Relationships.

     These relationship tips will help you in showing and expressing  your love and care for others in a healthy way.
    Please take the time to study them and integrate these love guidelines into your
    marriages and into your love relationships.
    Depend on one another.
    Be devoted to one another.
    Wash one anothers feet.
    Rejoice with one another.
    Weep with one another.
    Live in harmony with one another.
    Dont Judge one another.
    Accept one another.
    Admonish one another.
    Greet one another.
    Wait for one another.
    Care for one another.
    Serve one another.
    Be kind to one another.
    Forgive one another.
    Be compassionate toward one another.
    Encourage one another.
    Submit to one another.
    Bear with one another.
    Stimulate one another.
    Offer hospitality to one another.
    Minister spiritual gifts to one another.
    Be clothed in humility toward one another.
    Don't slander one another.
    Don't grumble against one another.
    Confess your sins to one another
    Pray together and for one another.
    Fellowship with one another.
    Don't be puffed up against one another.
    Carry one anothers burdens.
    Prefer one another.
    Enjoy one another.
    Respect one another.
    Laugh with one another.
    Play with one another.
    Be faithful to one another.
    Give to one another.
    Touch one another.
    Say “I love you” to one another.
    Write love notes to one another.
    Cherish one another.
    Comfort one another.
    Love one another.

    Science of Attraction and Love


    Have you ever wondered what is the reason that we get attracted to the opposite sex? What is behind a relationship between a man and woman? Or what is the reason we find some body totally irresistible and often fantasize about that person in a sexually inclined manner? Why is that we are swept off our feet at the sight or thought of someone and long to be with him/her whenever we are free?
    To understand the answer to all these questions we need to understand the Science of love. Following are the two main theories that govern the science of love , attraction or attachment.

    Evolutionary Need

    It can be considered to be the central factor that attracts the potential mate to a creature in the nature. The same is true for human beings as well. As the evolution theory goes, if a creature mates with a weaker mate, the off-springs are also weak and may not be able to survive against this harsh nature.
    This might at some point of time lead to the total extinction of the species from earth. In order to avoid this, it is natural that we try to attract and also get attracted to a stronger, healthier and attractive mate so that there is no problem in the continuity of our heritage.
    Though this theory might not play in our mind in our real lives but it is actually what the science of evolution tells us and it does explain to a good extent the laws of attraction and love.

    The Role of Hormones

    Apart from the evolution theory, this is the basic scientific reason which explains the questions we are trying to answer in this article.
    Hormones are a form of chemical compounds in our body which is released at various stages of life and times as per need. The role that they play in influencing our minds and bodies to get attracted to somebody is also pivotal. A famous study defines the first stage of love to be lust, the second as Attraction and third as Attachment. These various stages are influenced by different hormones in our body which is discussed below.
    Stage I - Lust
    This is the first stage of love, in which we try to get a desirable being of opposite sex and satiate our carnal desires. This stage is mostly related with the sexual fantasies that a human being carries in his/her mind. The sex hormone that influence or cause this stage is testosterone and estrogen in both males and females.
    Stage II - Attraction
    This is the most beautiful stage when one is said to have "fallen in love". The person in totally in thoughts of his/her lover and can think of nothing else that person. The hormones that play their role for such a emotional state are the following
    • Dopamine : Dopamine is a hormone that acts as a neurotransmitter. When this hormone is triggered, the individual experience the similar pleasurable feeling like that experienced when taking drugs! This brings in a wave of pleasant feelings, additional energy and focus. The need for sleep and taking rest is felt to go down.
    • Adrenaline : The process of falling for some body is characterized by a rush of adrenaline in your blood. This affects your response to stress, increased heart beat and dryness of mouth- indicators of initiation of love.
    Stage III - Attachment
    This is considered to the last stage of love and very much needed for a successful relationship. Scientists believe that there are two hormones which have a role to invoke this feeling - Oxytocin and Vassopressin.